In the past week, I dreamed of two different exes on two separate nights, and the moment I woke up I said “Wtf?! Is this some kind of Full Moon shit?”

Ran downstairs and dramatically told my mum “Mummy! FML, I dreamt of who and who omgggg!!!” …Yes, I am in my 30s and still living with my family coz I’m poor AF love being around them 🙂

I actually know a bit about dream analysis as I took a Dream Analysis exam with an international company 2 years ago and actually passed with flying colors (Asian level = 1000) but like many typical Asians or students in countries where exams are the main focus of our education system, I have a bad habit of memorizing everything just for the exams, ace-ing it and then forgetting everything. So yeah, don’t ask me to give you an answer from the top of my head as I am not a practicing Dream Analysis practitioner and cannot remember what image/signs actually represents what.

Dreaming of exes is EXTREMELY common and this is also one of the top question that my clients ask me – both men and women

But if any of you are overthinking because you dreamt of your ex last night, please CALM YOUR TITS. I spent some time doing “Ph.D. level” research on this as a CSR (Community Service Responsibility) for all of you and the betterment of my community and country lol (and also to collect some good brownie karma points from the universe)

What is Dream Analysis?

Dream analysis is sometimes used as a therapeutic technique and it is best known for its use in psychoanalysis. Psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud was one of the first who viewed dreams as “the royal road” to the unconscious and developed dream analysis, or dream interpretation, as one method in of tapping into this unconscious side of a human being.

Dream interpretation is known as the process of assigning a subconscious interpretation of one’s psyche to dreams. Although commonly related to also some styles of psychotherapy, research is still being conducted as there yet to be any reliable evidence that understanding or interpreting dreams would help in a positive impact on one’s psychological state.

Possible Meanings to your Dream

1. You need closure as many questions were left unanswered.

In modern-day #ghosting culture, one would always overthink the “what ifs”, “why”, “what did I do wrong?”.

If it is only a fling, a one-night stand, or casual rendezvous, then #ghosting just means you both were not compatible and in fact, I think ghosting is the gentlest form of rejection. As someone who deals with clients and friends who have severe emotional and mental health issues, the truth can actually more detrimental and would cause self-harm or a big blow to one’s self-esteem.

If it’s a long-term committed relationship then dreaming about an ex could mean that you’re looking for closure.

You may be upset about the way things ended between the two of you, or maybe you’re hoping that the relationship would end in the way you wanted it – the ending you’ve curated in your mind.

2. You are comparing your past relationship to your current or new partnership.

If you’re dreaming about the ex when you’re beginning a new relationship with someone else, you’re probably contrasting the two in an attempt to make sure things work out this time.

When you move into a relationship with a new person, your mind can still be trying to figure out the pluses and minuses of your old relationship

Your subconscious mind is telling not to make the same mistakes to ensure the longevity and success of your new relationship.”

3. Sign of control issues.

You may be wanting to fix the other person. If that person has done this or changes this specific behavior then the breakup wouldn’t happen.

Reflect on this – did you contribute to the demise of the relationship? Think of your childhood and if you’re mirroring the behavior of your parents. Seek therapy if you need to as control issues is not a behavior that can be resolved easily but manageable with therapy and by training your own self -control

Remember, we cannot change other people, we can only change ourselves.

4. You still have feelings for your ex.

Especially if it ended less than 6 months ago.

We don’t just cut off our feelings of love towards someone especially when there are memories and history with that person. You may need to take a deep look at yourself to see if you still want or hope to be able to get back together … and then find out where to go from there.

In cases like this, you can give them one last call for clarity. If they are not keen to get back together then move on.

5. You are feeling miserable with your life

You might have attachment issues or current situations in your life is
making you miserable.

Reliance on the people around you to make you happy is being toxic to yourself because there is never a guarantee that other people ‘will’ make you happy. Part of growing up and life is that there will always be people that will disappoint you and upset you. The person that should not disappoint you is yourself.

Instead of wanting an ex, partner, or lover to make you happy it would be a good idea to take steps to improve. Nobody can save you but yourself and if you’re not happy, you’ll never be happy in any relationship.

In summary, dreaming of an ex does not mean that it is an “omen” to get back together with them. Dreams reflect our subconscious mind or suppressed feelings.

Personally, those relationships ended years ago. I have always been very proud of my healing process thus far and I don’t even think of my exes at all coz I am only thinking about making money moves but I know deep down I still have not fully forgiven them for wasting my time. So after reflecting for a bit, I know that my inner psyche is telling me that this is the fact that I need to accept as at times, we don’t get the closure and “sorry” that we truly deserve. I may have been put in a situation where I needed to raise someone else’s sons but at the end of the day “What I do unto people is my Karma and what people do unto me is their Karma.” The whole of Malaysia already know that I’ve been reaping my good Karma in the past two years 🙂